• Deborah Charles-Nelson

'How to Stay Positive Through the Year'

This year, I'm all about positivity and spreading love. I truly believe that if more of us actively work on being kinder, more encouraging, more empathetic, more understanding – and the list goes on – the world would be a better place. Lately I've been doing some things a little differently from how I have previously, so here are my top 6 ways to stay positive. Let's start the year off with nothing but positive vibes...

1. Morning Meditation.

This for me is absolutely paramount. Our minds have the power to change our surroundings. Albert Einstein said it perfectly: “The world we have created is a product of our thinking; it cannot be changed without changing our thinking.” For me, I start by reading my bible, a daily devotional, or some affirmative confessions. This sets me up for my day and refocuses my mind. Some of my favourites are: - “Yes, my soul, find rest in God; my hope comes from him.” (Psalm 62:5 NIV)

- “It is God who arms me with strength and keeps my way secure.” (Psalm 18:32 NIV)

- “I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.” (Psalm 139:14 AMP)

- “I remain confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living.” (Psalm 27:13 NIV)

2. Gratitude Journal.

This is a huge one. Last year I celebrated major life milestones; my first year wedding anniversary and the birth of my beautiful baby boy. However, with everything I encountered postpartum (have a read of my previous post to find out what I'm on about) these amazing milestones where clouded. Using my gratitude journal really helps me put things perspective and allows me to remember just how blessed I am.

3. Weekly 'Date Night'.

This can be with your girlfriends, your family or partner. For me and my husband, it's been something we are prioritising in order for our marriage to continue to thrive. If you want your relationships to flourish you have to work on them and invest time and effort. (If you want to know more about how we are balancing parenthood and marriage, see my previous blog post!)

4. Scheduled 'Self-Care Day'.

e.g. get a mani/pedi, have a long bath with candles and music just for you (try it it's amazing!), or just do anything recreational that helps you to relax. It's so important that we look after ourselves, so that we can be our best selves to those around us. Most importantly, you owe it yourself – you deserve it!

5. Focusing on myself and my family (and not watching what others are doing).

When we compare, we somewhat diminish our accomplishments and often forget to congratulate ourselves on our personal progress. Yes, you may not where he or she is, but look how far you've come!

6. Stay fit.

Try and get some exercise in – even if it's just for 10 minutes a day. I know it can be difficult, especially if you have a busy schedule, or you've just had a baby. But research shows exercise can help with anxiety and also boost your energy levels!

7. Tidy and Declutter your space.

A clear environment = a clear mind. Dedicate 30 mins out of your week to reorganise a messy drawer or organise your bookshelf.

8. Surrounding myself with positive friends and family.

Who you surround yourself with can really affect your energy and mood. Protect your mind and wellbeing by being around those who uplift you. Don't get me wrong; you don't want a bunch of 'yes' people around you, you need people who challenge you to be better, but in an edifying way.